The Dark Strands of Grief

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This photo came up on my timeline this year…

Must have been from 1985! Only 2 of our amazing 6 children were born…

Yesterday was the 16th year anniversary of Ken’s passing…
 So many thoughts, emotions, memories flood through one’s mind when reflecting on life, what was, and what now is.

When this time of the year rolls around, there is a sense that is different from other times and rightly so as a person is indelibly marked by hard circumstances… loss especially.

Every year is different, but there are still traces and remnants of grief woven into the fabric of who we are.

Grief weaves those darker strands into the tapestry of our lives that add dimension and depth to our life story.

Life goes on and so do we… in a totally new and uncharted direction as our course was so abruptly changed.

And we kick and scream and try to get our bearings in a sea that tosses us to and fro in grief and sadness and tears…

But…
 Eventually…

Those brutal waves die down and we surrender to what is..
 And as we begin to surrender, a sense of rest and peace enfold us…
 It’s like the sunshine then breaks through the clouds and warms us and nourishes us…

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And we begin to heal and gain strength…
 And then a spark ignites inside of us…
 And we once again slowly come to life…

And then the pain lessens and the memories make us smile…
 And yes, we still cry because our emotions are heightened forever…

But we are free in our tears and our laughter…
 Because they have become dear to us…

And we have become more beautiful and scarred and deeper because of the love and loss of someone so very special that was once a part of us and always will be!

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 Ken Aigner…
 11/10/1946–12/09/2001

Parched and Dry, Those Desert Places

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You can find beauty even in the desert…
You know, those dry times in life when it seems like you are parched and thirsty…
and never reach the green lush valleys with the spring fed bubbling brook?
Look up and around you…
Focus on what’s to come….
And just around the next bend…
When the lessons that were handed to you in the desert are complete…
You will walk into that lush valley…
With strength, character and a maturity you didn’t have before!
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Vickie Aigner
Alive, Fit & Free, The Method
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Expert Consultant on Cultural and Corporate growth for Individuals, Communities and Organizations

A Positive Transformational and Aspirational Life Design

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Bright & Shiny

Not going to lie here... this has been a difficult month... one daughter in the hospital since before Thanksgiving and now looking at a kidney removal, time of the year when we've lost loved ones and I have found myself overwhelmed by sadness and grief a lot of the time. 
BUT...
This morning I drove through Dutch Bros coffee to get lil a drink and this bright and shiny girl just bubbled life and joy out like crazy! It made me snap out of it, get out of my own head and realize life is still amazing even when we are engulfed with the hard circumstances it can present. There are others around hat need that smile, that touch on the shoulder, a word of encouragement...
When I left that window with coffee in tow, I was smiling!
So to the Dutch Bros girl... thank you for uplifting my spirit and shaking me out of myself....
So I pass that sparkle, that glimmer of hope, that touch of joy, that encouragement that you can... and it will get better...

Today I will be that bright shiny bit of life to those I see...intentionally

be alive, fit & free,

Vickie

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