The Dark Strands of Grief

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This photo came up on my timeline this year…

Must have been from 1985! Only 2 of our amazing 6 children were born…

Yesterday was the 16th year anniversary of Ken’s passing…
 So many thoughts, emotions, memories flood through one’s mind when reflecting on life, what was, and what now is.

When this time of the year rolls around, there is a sense that is different from other times and rightly so as a person is indelibly marked by hard circumstances… loss especially.

Every year is different, but there are still traces and remnants of grief woven into the fabric of who we are.

Grief weaves those darker strands into the tapestry of our lives that add dimension and depth to our life story.

Life goes on and so do we… in a totally new and uncharted direction as our course was so abruptly changed.

And we kick and scream and try to get our bearings in a sea that tosses us to and fro in grief and sadness and tears…

But…
 Eventually…

Those brutal waves die down and we surrender to what is..
 And as we begin to surrender, a sense of rest and peace enfold us…
 It’s like the sunshine then breaks through the clouds and warms us and nourishes us…

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And we begin to heal and gain strength…
 And then a spark ignites inside of us…
 And we once again slowly come to life…

And then the pain lessens and the memories make us smile…
 And yes, we still cry because our emotions are heightened forever…

But we are free in our tears and our laughter…
 Because they have become dear to us…

And we have become more beautiful and scarred and deeper because of the love and loss of someone so very special that was once a part of us and always will be!

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 Ken Aigner…
 11/10/1946–12/09/2001

Parched and Dry, Those Desert Places

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You can find beauty even in the desert…
You know, those dry times in life when it seems like you are parched and thirsty…
and never reach the green lush valleys with the spring fed bubbling brook?
Look up and around you…
Focus on what’s to come….
And just around the next bend…
When the lessons that were handed to you in the desert are complete…
You will walk into that lush valley…
With strength, character and a maturity you didn’t have before!
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Vickie Aigner
Alive, Fit & Free, The Method
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Expert Consultant on Cultural and Corporate growth for Individuals, Communities and Organizations

A Positive Transformational and Aspirational Life Design

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Creating Your Personal Culture

Personal Culture, what is it?

It is a way of life, that encompasses all the behaviors, beliefs, values, thoughts, actions, vibes, energy, likes, dislikes, social habits, cuisine and symbols that we examine, accept and carefully choose to have in our lives; those beliefs that are serving us at our utmost, our highest sense of being, for nurturing ourselves and others, for creating and displaying who we truly are.

Your "Personal Culture" is your Life, your Lifestyle, your Lifestyle Design...

You, my friend, can make that be whatever you want it to be, whatever you want it to look like...

And if you don't create your "personal culture" the way you want it to look, feel and taste... 

The world around you will dictate how that should be... 

Make the choice...

Create Your Personal Culture! 

The Alive, Fit & Free Method…

Expert Consultant on Cultural and Corporate Growth for Individuals, Communities, and Organizations

A Positive Transformational and Aspirational Life Design

 

 

Through The Eyes Of Zanzibar

As our van rambled across the Zanzibar countryside, and cajoled through the hills adorned with tropical jungles, the busyness of community and the interaction of people in this simple lifestyle not only impressed me, but challenged and humbled me as I found myself awed by the rhythm of life within this raw country.

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You see, being a consultant, I get caught up in always looking for ways to help, and to improve and in my haughty perception, I set off to Zanzibar viewing life through this faulty lens.

My second day there, I heard this loud voice in my head say, “Stop it! Can’t you just step back, observe, marvel in, taste, touch, feel, breathe in this land and its people?”

It was exactly the slap on the face I needed to take off my high and mighty coach’s attitude and become enthralled with this life.

I observed villages tucked away in small clearings, and clothes lines adorned with vividly colored clothing flapping in the breeze. I saw women laughing together as they swept the dirt floors and washed their dishes in tubs outside. I saw barefoot children gleefully laughing as they chased broken tire rims with sticks.

I saw men riding on bicycles, their backs harnessed with loads of sticks, off to market to with their goods. I saw resourceful, creative people selling whatever they could find and sometimes that was a pile of coconut husks along the side of the road, or 5 tomatoes stacked up neatly on a makeshift table under a torn up salvaged piece of plastic, or old pieces of bicycle rims and parts, bent and rusted.

Whatever they had in their hands to sell and present to the public they did knowing that selling one tomato or the pile of coconut husks could feed their family for a week.

 

I saw a spirited people, with eyes that sparkled, black shiny skin and beautiful white smiles and when they spoke they did so with an air of royalty and grace. I saw sharing and caring about one another. I saw relationships and community at the center of their lives.

We ordered breakfast one morning… five people joyfully traipsed to the kitchen to prepare our meal and they conversed and laughed and it was a fun, joyful time.

They did not have much materially, but they were oh so rich in the ways that matter most.

Yes, I was not only impressed, but challenged and humbled me as I found myself awed by the rhythm of life within this raw country. And I am choosing to live my life through the eyes of Zanzibar!

Where Do You Live?

Culture… Where you live from the inside out…
your beliefs
your thoughts
your preferences

Isn’t it time to design your culture to elevate you to the “High Ground”?
The Alive, Fit & Free Method…

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Let The Adventures Begin...

 

I have a fun game to play to usher in a new year. 
Upon contemplating 2016, pick out 3 character qualities that you became last year through all of your many circumstances… That’s it…..
Now….
Think of 3 adventures… adventures that are totally outside of your comfort zone…
That you want to participate in this coming year…
Got them??
Now the fun part….
Couple your powerful new character qualities with your out of the comfort zone adventures…
See them coupled together for strength and victory…
Now…
Cement the two together by writing them down, drawing or painting a picture or make a vision board of them in celebration of the enhanced you and your journey for the coming year.
Keep this visual in front of you so you can remind yourself often who you are and where you are headed…
Let the adventures begin!

This is The Alive, Fit & Free Method
Come create your unique culture with me!
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be alive, fit & free,

Vickie

A Dream, A Vision, A Transformation

A dream, a vision, a transformation…
It’s getting from here to there…
It’s a process…
It constantly needs adjusting…
It’s challenging,
Exciting,
Hard,
Invigorating,
Frustrating,
Sometimes taking us to the point of giving in, giving up, walking away…
But…
Therein the journey lies the strength,
The character,
The life lessons,
The fortitude,
The peace,
The fulfillment… 

The transformation

The alive, fit &free method guides you in the process of transformation, walks with you through the highs and lows and provides you with simple to use, effective tools for you personal transformative journey…
Come journey with me!

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be alive, fit & free,

Vickie